I believe making love to a woman begins by talking to her. By listening to a woman. NOT ‘mansplain’. Look into her eyes. Most women want a man who will actively listen to them, not just nod ever so often. A joke I saw depicted a male prostitute who is paid to listen to a woman. Watch homosexuals talking to women. They listen and respond to the woman. It is about paying ‘attention’. Undivided attention is the highest compliment you can pay to someone. Not talking on your phone or texting while you are talking with her. It is a sign that you care about that person if you listen to them attentively.
Listening is just the beginning. Love making continues for hours; it is non verbal communication. Romantic love involves small attentions to the other person. From both sides. A woman who can respond to a man’s efforts will be appreciated in return. Say thank you or smile. The woman should not think that she is a princess or a diva. Or act like one. A real woman respects a real man who takes the time and effort.
Men think that washing themselves in Axe perfume is the ultimate turn on for women. What fools. Wash with soap. Keep yourself clean and well cared for. Even the mechanic who cleans up nice will be loved in kind.
As for pick up lines, I find that stupid things the pick up experts recommend are all tosh. Just be natural. Talk about the weather. Say something natural. Funny is the best, but not hokum, nor dirty. Be yourself, and show confidence.
Don’t hit on drunk women.
Keep it consensual.
As the romance continues, give flowers, cook etc. Show you care.
Sex
Sex is a touchy subject and I don’t mean that as a joke. When I visited Poland I danced with a woman for hours. Later she gave me her all (and we didn’t speak the same language). Woman can tell a lot about a men by the way he touches her, how he moves. A man who knows how to touch a woman is rare. Women are used to barbarians who can hardly control their urges. A soft touch is always the best touch.
I could describes techniques that turn on women. The Kama Sutra describes them all, or most of them. I am not into technics. All women are different. I have two things that worked for me.
One: always be attuned to your lover - pay attention to her before, during and afterward.
Two: when you are about to come, think of clouds. This is an old Taoist method of prolonging pleasure, yours and your partner’s.
I leave you with this from a lover who made me come countless times ( 10 ):
Il n’y rien de sale dans l’amour. There is nothing dirty in love.
Keep it consensual.
Fucking
“Don't let yourself die without knowing the wonder of fucking with love.”
