There’s not enough sex
Contemplation of the sex trade
When the Noble Laureat Rigoberta Menchú Tum was asked her opinion of the indigenous films in a film festival she responded, in Spanish translated by my friend the director of the festival, “There’s not enough sex!” To the consternation and amusement of the audience. This little K'iche' Indigenous feminist and human rights activist from Guatemala hit on the nail, sort to speak, and I wanted to elaborate on what that means in our society.
Let’s talk about an authoress, Nelly Arcan, who passed away from her own hand, September 24, 2009. I had met her at Metropolis Blue, Montreal’s literary Festival, and exchanged a few words. Mostly I observed her at close hand; her face was pockmarked which belied her beauty and courage of writing an autobiographical novel about working as a prostitute to pay for her university studies.
Recently I met another woman who I asked in passing how many men she had slept with, 10, 100, or a thousand? She told me, in secret it was more than a thousand, because she worked at a massage place that offered ‘extra services’ to clients and she was paying her way through university. Last year I met another young woman who told me she had been a sugar baby and was looking for a new sugar daddy. All normal looking woman, all could be and were someone’s daughters and sisters and such.
Nelly Arcan (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nelly_Arcan) documented her work and pleasure and not pleasurable experiences in he books, despite her fame and fortune it didn’t give her respite. Over the years I have met and known women who are so called sex workers; BDSM mistresses, Strippers, Cam Girls, Prostitutes, etc. All are healthy normal women, who have had no choice or by choice, entered into the lurid, crummy life of sex exploitation. The saddest ones, the ones who make my blood boil with anger are the under aged girls who are lured by pimps or easy money into the business. There is a modern day slave market going on under our very noses, which we tend to ignore it or think it is just a ‘few’ bad apples. It isn’t.
Whether a man or a woman makes the choice to sell their body, is up to them. In many cases, feminists believe that marriage is a form of slavery where women get Shanghaied into working as unpaid labourers for the rest of their lives. For little or no sex. But when a young child is exploited, either in the family or outside it should be a crime In many countries it is not one. France for example has a nebulous age of consent and rape laws. Witness why Roman Polanski and the renowned pedophile author are lionized there.
Though that may be changing:
In the US, the age for young girls marrying varies and sometimes there is no limit what so ever….
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/4756732/child-brides-usa-marriage-forced-zimbabwe/
I remember sitting next to a young woman in an airplane arriving in Montreal, and she told me she was glad t return home. Her appearance was to say the least slutty looking, and she was traveling with other girls who were under the wing of an older man. I made assumption I shouldn’t have, but were probably accurate. It is sad to say woman are the victims in this victimless crime. Often the say they enjoy it, and many do, but in the end, it must be a soul crushing kind of business.
Here in Montreal we boast of having the best Strip Clubs and Massage Parlours (one is across the way from where I live, open 24 hours a day). Montreal also boast the headquarters of PornHub the Internet’s larges hosting service for pornography. Grand Prix week is when the whole city becomes the largest brothel in the world (I am quoting the industry types) and my cousin used to live next to a R B and B with its own pole dance in the living room around 5 bedrooms used for Bachelor parties.
SO what do I know about sex and the wages of sins and sex? Will it ever go away? Will men and women stop needing to do ‘it’? That is a question above my pay scale.
